Here and Now



Be careful not to repeat past mistakes.

Learn from them and grow.

Make peace with yourself first and foremost.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes and then forgive others who have hurt you.

Focus on what’s good in your Life.

Focus on what makes you Happy.

Focus on the Here and Now.

Be Present and the rest will fall into place.


Just Dance



Doesn’t dancing make you feel good? It does me! First of all, you have the music. No matter what your preference is you can always move your body and get your groove on. Not only is it great exercise but it’s good for the soul. I find myself listening, then singing and before you know it, I’m up on my feet, DANCING!

When I’m in the kitchen cooking, I love to crank the tunes. I listen to every thing. From Rock n Roll to Hip Hop to Rap to Spiritual Music to Country to Gospel… You name it and I listen to it. The only music I do not is HEAD BANGING MUSIC. If it’s all screaming and I can’t understand a word of what is being sung, then it’s not for me. Other than that, I embrace it all.

When I’m cleaning my house, I love to listen to music and I always find myself dancing around. Whether I’m vacuuming or scrubbing the tub. Singing and dancing is all part of my routine. It makes cleaning FUN!


I love to go outside, put music on and dance around my backyard. I feel like a free spirit! My arms waving in the air, my hips swaying side to side and my feet absorbing the energy from the ground. Some times when it’s raining, I’ll go out and do the same thing. Usually, because I’m in pain and I’m looking for anything to take my mind off of how shitty I’m feeling. Rainy days really suck for me. The past couple of days have been humid and rainy. I’ve kept to myself. No social media or blogging. When I feel shitty like that, I’m usually down and my mind gets negative. In these times I write in my journal, to get my feelings out but try to stay away from talking with others. It’s hard to hide the pain and I do not want any pity from anyone. Some times I suck it up, put my radio in the window and go outside and dance in the rain. Letting my feet feel the energy in the earth, as I sing mantras and transcend my emotions in to a positive, happy place. This is another form of meditation for me. It brings me great comfort.


I try to focus on the positive. Take yesterday for instance. My sister went into Boston for major surgery, which was weighing on me. My sister and I are estranged, so there’s definitely feelings of guilt. I did not sleep well the night before and when I woke, I was moaning in pain. My love got me some Ibuprofen, to help ease with the tightness and sharp zaps I was feeling. First thing in the morning can be such a drag. I wont lie, I don’t wake up feeling positive, hardly ever! It’s a mind-set that I go through. I have to talk my body into doing what I need it to do and battle on through. Once I was up and about, I immediately put one of  Snatam Kaur’s  CD’s on. Within minutes I was stretching and doing yoga poses. By the end, I was dancing around my living room like a flower child from the 60′s. My body was releasing and my mind was focusing on the good and not the pain. Not thinking about my sister and her battle with cancer.


This morning I was up at 4a.m. I was hurting (still raining & humid). I immediately grabbed my phone to check out the weather forecast for the next week. See I leave tomorrow morning, for my long weekend get away with the girls, and I wanted to see what the weather was going to be like. It will make a huge difference on how I’m going to feel. You wont be able to see the pain I’m in, but trust me, it’s there.  “HIP HIP HOORAY!!” Is what I said, (out loud) when I read low humidity and nothing but sunshine. Nice DRY air! What do I do? Put on some music and started my household chores. My hips were killing me but I tried not to think about them. I started cleaning and before long I was singing and dancing! I read my Mum’s post regarding my sister and the news was great! Positive news! By 5:30a.m. my spirits were lifted, my pain started to ease up and I felt it was time to read all 462 e-mails, respond to comments and write some blogs. I still have 223 to read but rest assured my friends, I will get to them ALL.


So remember this my dear friends, regardless of what you may be going through or how bad you may be feeling, put on some music, SMILE and JUST DANCE!

“Dancing In The Street” by Mick Jagger & David Bowie

Try it… You wont regret it!

Peace out, Michelle

happy buddha – Budai




Budai is traditionally depicted as an obese, bald man wearing a robe and wearing or otherwise carrying prayer beads. He carries his few possessions in a cloth sack, being poor but content. He is often depicted entertaining or being followed by adoring children. His figure appears throughout Chinese culture as a representation of contentment. His image graces many temples, restaurants, amulets, and businesses.

According to Chinese history, Budai was an eccentric Chán monk who lived in China during the Later Liang (907–923 CE). He was a native of Fenghua, and his Buddhist name was Qieci. He was considered a man of good and loving character.

The term buddha means “one who is awake”, connoting one who has awakened into enlightenment. Over the history of Buddhism, there have been several notable figures who would come to be remembered as, and referred to as, buddhas. Later followers of the Chan school would come to teach that all beings possess Buddha-nature within them, and are already enlightened, but have yet to realize it. This teaching would continue into Zen.

Budai is often conflated with (or simply replaces) the historical Buddha, Siddhartha Gautama, in spite of the distinct visual differences in how each has been depicted. In India, Nepal, and throughout southeast Asia, Gautama (who lived during the 6th century BCE) is commonly depicted as being tall and slender in appearance. In contrast, in China and those areas to which Chinese cultural influence spread, the depiction of Budai (who lived during the 10th century CE) is consistently short and round.


Budai in folklore is admired for his happiness, plenitude, and wisdom of contentment. One belief popular in folklore maintains that rubbing his belly brings wealth, good luck, and prosperity.

In Japan, Hotei persists in folklore as one of the Seven Lucky Gods (Shichi Fukujin) of Taoism.

The laughing Buddha statue is a symbol of happiness and contentment. The Laughing Buddha is seen in different postures, each having a different significance.

*Buddha with a money bag and a gold ingot represents wealth and good fortune.

*The Standing Happy Buddha brings riches and happiness.

*Buddha sitting on a large gold nugget with a smaller nugget in his hand ready for giving to others. This position of the Laughing Buddha is symbolic of good luck.

*Buddha sitting with his fan hat on his head represents enjoyment and good fortune.

*Buddha holding a gold ingot with his hands upright signifies abundant riches and good luck.

*Buddha with a fan in one hand and wu lou (bottle gourd) in the other hand brings blessings and good health. The fan wards off misfortune while the wu lou protects from illness.

*Buddha carrying a bag of gold on his shoulder symbolizes prosperity.

*Buddha carrying a bag of blessings on his right shoulder and a fan in his left hand protects you and keeps you safe during long journeys.

*Buddha with a travel stick in his hand protects you from harm during journeys.


Some Buddhist traditions consider him a Buddha or a bodhisattva, often identifying him with Maitreya (the future Buddha).

His identification with the Maitreya is attributed to a Buddhist hymn he uttered before his death:

Maitreya, the true Maitreya
has billions of incarnations.
Often he is shown to people at the time;
other times they do not recognize him.



The primary story that concerns Budai in Zen (Chán) is a short kōan. In it, Budai is said to travel giving candy to poor children, only asking a penny from Zen monks or lay practitioners he meets. One day a monk walks up to him and asks, “What is the meaning of Zen?” Budai drops his bag. “How does one realize Zen?” he continues. Budai then takes up his bag and continues on his way.


I Kuan Tao

Statues of Budai form a central part of I Kuan Tao shrines, where he is usually referred to by the Sanskrit name Maitreya. According to I Kuan Tao, he represents many teachings, including contentment, generosity, wisdom and open kind-heartedness . He is predicted to succeed Gautama Buddha as the next Buddha, and helps people realize the essence within, which connects with all beings.

What Makes A Great Friendship?


I’ve been busy writing this morning. My mind is full of thoughts and jibba jabba.


What makes a great friendship? I have a few things on my list, to fit that criteria.

First of all…  #1 Acceptance, for all that is good and bad, which leads us right in to #2 No Judgement. It takes a long time to learn this one. I still work on this on a daily basis. What gives us the right to judge another? If they are not hurting you directly then it’s non of our business. But with the society we live in, the values and beliefs we are taught growing up, your surroundings and environment you grew up in, all come in to play, when deciphering our thoughts and emotions.

It’s a natural reaction to go to the… Hmmm, what’s going on with him/her? To then start piecing things together in our own minds. When bottom line, it’s all craziness if you ask me. It’s too much work focusing on others.

WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF! Don’t worry about what him/her are doing or how they got there and or why?

Stories are told so people can listen. As we all know, stories are embellished, twisted and turned. By the end the story is no longer true or relevant. If you don’t hear it directly from the horse’s mouth. Do not believe or judge. It’s that simple!. Doesn’t that make sense to you? It sure does to me. What will you get out of the so-called stories and how will it benefit your friendships? I’ll tell you what it causes you, nothing but unwanted stress, resentment, sadness, anger etc… Now go back and read that last sentence again… ALL NEGATIVE WORDS!

This brings negative feelings, negative vibes, negative emotions, a NEGATIVE WORLD! Again I’ve learned this very late in life but it’s a LESSON WELL LEARNED! You only end up hurting yourself, in the long run. Let it Go!

Once you have Acceptance and No Judgement the rest will follow suit. The Love, Respect, Loyalty, Honesty and Kindness. If you have these beautiful positive things in your life, you will live a much Happier, Positive Life and be surrounded by happy, positive and loving friends.

I’m not one to ever forget. Those who know me well, know this is true about me. But I have learned to Forgive myself for my short comings as a friend, sister, daughter, mother and lover. They are now a part of my past. By forgiving myself, I could easily forgive those who I felt hurt me and treated me unfairly throughout my life. This has allowed me to be a better friend, mother, daughter, sister and lover. You need to breakdown the walls and let go of your insecurities. Your amongst friends, remember?


This is a wonderful thing for me. I come with baggage. A lot of baggage. My family has strong ties and history to my community and the people living in it. Some good and some bad but when it comes down to it, it’s what makes me who I Am today.

I embrace my friends like family. You have to fit into my world, if not, then that’s okay too! Not everyone is meant to get  a long but you can still live in peace and harmony and definitely live without the so-called stories. Stories which bring DRAMA. Instead, live in-Spirit my friends. Let go of your Ego’s. Live YOUR Truth and love and accept YOU for YOU! You’ll be surprised on how freeing it can feel and how much happier your life will be.

Inspirational video ~  “Brighter Than The Sun”  sung by Colbie Calliat


It can be very easy to have great friendships, once you learn how to love, respect and forgive yourself. The rest is a piece of cake.


Old Friends Are The Best Friends



No matter how much time goes by, its great to know you have your childhood friends by your side.

We grew up together. Shared our weddings together, the birth of our children, the loss of family members and at times we may lose our way but in the end we always find our way back to each other.



Why I started Meditating


Dish with Mish:

The question on why I started meditating and how  I do it and for how long, has been coming up more often. I’ve decided to Reblog this post which hopefully will answer any questions you may have.
Namaste (I bow to you)

Originally posted on Dish with Mish:


Close to seven years ago, I found myself at a crossroad. I was at the end of a bitter relationship and needed to make some positive changes in my life. I was overweight and not living a healthy life style.  Drank too much, smoked too much and fought too much. I was a miserable, sad, bitter person, who decided to change her entire way of thinking and living.

At first it was difficult. I went from being addicted to the television, to not even having cable. I watched movies only. I stopped driving unless I really needed to. I walked every where. I started exercising, chanting basic mantras and reading and writing. This helped take my mind off of computers, television and food. I would walk six days a week, up to four to six miles a day. Before long I was jogging and taking hikes in the woods. I…

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Expect the Best



Instead of having doubt and thinking negative, expect the best! Your thoughts create who you are. They create how you feel. They create how you act.  You need to take charge of your Life and start expecting the best for yourself.

As Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “Change your expectations for yourself:  Expect Divine guidance, expect your fortunes to change, expect a miracle, expect the best. When you were in-Spirit prior to materializing, your aim was high and your expectations were Godlike. Reacquaint yourself with that vision.”