I’ve been busy writing this morning. My mind is full of thoughts and jibba jabba.
What makes a great friendship? I have a few things on my list, to fit that criteria.
First of all… #1 Acceptance, for all that is good and bad, which leads us right in to #2 No Judgement. It takes a long time to learn this one. I still work on this on a daily basis. What gives us the right to judge another? If they are not hurting you directly then it’s non of our business. But with the society we live in, the values and beliefs we are taught growing up, your surroundings and environment you grew up in, all come in to play, when deciphering our thoughts and emotions.
It’s a natural reaction to go to the… Hmmm, what’s going on with him/her? To then start piecing things together in our own minds. When bottom line, it’s all craziness if you ask me. It’s too much work focusing on others.
WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF! Don’t worry about what him/her are doing or how they got there and or why?
Stories are told so people can listen. As we all know, stories are embellished, twisted and turned. By the end the story is no longer true or relevant. If you don’t hear it directly from the horse’s mouth. Do not believe or judge. It’s that simple!. Doesn’t that make sense to you? It sure does to me. What will you get out of the so-called stories and how will it benefit your friendships? I’ll tell you what it causes you, nothing but unwanted stress, resentment, sadness, anger etc… Now go back and read that last sentence again… ALL NEGATIVE WORDS!
This brings negative feelings, negative vibes, negative emotions, a NEGATIVE WORLD! Again I’ve learned this very late in life but it’s a LESSON WELL LEARNED! You only end up hurting yourself, in the long run. Let it Go!
Once you have Acceptance and No Judgement the rest will follow suit. The Love, Respect, Loyalty, Honesty and Kindness. If you have these beautiful positive things in your life, you will live a much Happier, Positive Life and be surrounded by happy, positive and loving friends.
I’m not one to ever forget. Those who know me well, know this is true about me. But I have learned to Forgive myself for my short comings as a friend, sister, daughter, mother and lover. They are now a part of my past. By forgiving myself, I could easily forgive those who I felt hurt me and treated me unfairly throughout my life. This has allowed me to be a better friend, mother, daughter, sister and lover. You need to breakdown the walls and let go of your insecurities. Your amongst friends, remember?
This is a wonderful thing for me. I come with baggage. A lot of baggage. My family has strong ties and history to my community and the people living in it. Some good and some bad but when it comes down to it, it’s what makes me who I Am today.
I embrace my friends like family. You have to fit into my world, if not, then that’s okay too! Not everyone is meant to get a long but you can still live in peace and harmony and definitely live without the so-called stories. Stories which bring DRAMA. Instead, live in-Spirit my friends. Let go of your Ego’s. Live YOUR Truth and love and accept YOU for YOU! You’ll be surprised on how freeing it can feel and how much happier your life will be.
Inspirational video ~ “Brighter Than The Sun” sung by Colbie Calliat
It can be very easy to have great friendships, once you learn how to love, respect and forgive yourself. The rest is a piece of cake.